Having just completed my Psychology degree, I was feeling rather mentally drained and, if I’m honest, hadn’t had much time to think about coming out to Romania. It seemed like a lifetime ago I’d had my interview and travelled to Warrington for the training day. When I arrived in Romania this lost and disorganised feeling still lingered, however, within a couple of days I can honestly say I settled so well into our new routine, the apartment and Slatina. I knew very quickly that the next two weeks would involve me falling in love with Romania, the work The Life Foundation do and many of the wonderful personalities I encountered along this beautiful journey.
The first child I was introduced to was a beautiful princess with hydrocephalus. When she was first placed her in my arms, nerves began to bubble as I held such a fragile and precious child. We visited this home every morning and throughout the two weeks I grew confident with supporting her needs and realised there was no need to be nervous. Once I’d overcome this, I was able to learn what she liked and disliked. Although she is not very able, she is definitely very bossy and will soon tell you when she’s getting fed up. Equally, when she finds something she enjoys, such as the foil blanket or your ponytail, you just can’t help but giggle along with her!
The other days were spent at the adult institution. These days will stay etched on my heart forever. At the end of each day my cheeks hurt from smiling and laughing so much. They all have massive personalities and are so full of love and enthusiasm. I loved being able to get them out of the institution for the day and into the forest for a BBQ. Being able to connect with nature, picking mushrooms and berries and making flower crowns was so refreshing for both the adults, carers and volunteers. We did lots of dancing and eating and it was lovely to see everyone so involved.
The two weeks went by so fast and I didn’t want to leave. I can’t believe how much I learnt and developed during this time. It’s an experience that has changed the way I think and act and I honestly cannot wait to return and continue being involved in the amazing work the life foundation do.
I first volunteered in Romania during my third year as a mental health nursing student in 2017. It was one of the best experiences of my life, as a nursing student it taught me a lot about myself and also to appreciate the resources we have available, both living and working in the UK. Meeting the children was great, and it was great to see the children were happy and all of this was thanks to the Life Foundation. For me though being able to experience the adult institution and being able to work with the adults was a real experience and one that will stay with me forever. When I first visited the adults in my first year, I found it quite overwhelming. However, seeing the impact us volunteers had on the residents gave me a great feeling about the work we were doing and also a sense of pride.
Following my first experience, I signed up to volunteer again for two weeks in 2018. This time myself and a friend were allowed to join the adult trip, which meant the first week was spent visiting the children and the second week was spent at the adult institution. As we were there every day, we were able to really interact with the adults using lots of positive interaction and play.
Whilst you are out in Romania you stay in a beautiful place called Slatina, in a flat which is very central. You will have a local guide called Norica who is amazing and really supportive and also other locals who will accompany you to the children’s homes and adult institution and act as an interpreter so that you are always supported.
The good thing about this organisation is that it is open to anyone who is willing to go out and give everything they have to ensure they have the best two-week experience and work hard. Not only are you doing something positive for others, but for anyone looking to pursue a career in any caring capacity, this will give you lots of experience.
Stepping off the bus in Cezieni, you will always be greeted by two or three residents. They are so excited to see you, and to see what you’ve bought to play with. They’ll take your hand, they’ll make it clear what they want, they’ll know you’re there for them.
But what about the residents that don’t? The residents that keep to themselves, that don’t realise they deserve this attention too, that don’t know how to ask for it? This is the story of how I met one special resident, who proved that the little things like a smile or hug really matter, and can make such a difference to one person’s day.
On our first day in Cezieni I spotted this particular resident at lunchtime. He was trying to eat, but both his hands were shaking, and he didn’t have the confidence to sit down with the other residents. So, I gave him a hand. I think what struck me about him was how surprised he looked: he kept looking at me, then lowering his eyes, then looking back when he thought I wasn’t looking. It was such a stark contrast to the residents that had bounded up to us when we first got off the bus.
Later, I saw him wandering around the grounds. Someone saw me looking over, and told me that he never comes over to the volunteers. On a whim, I decided that if he wasn’t going to come to us, I was going to go to him! Over that day and the next, I went over to him every time he walked past our group. I would take his hands, make faces, smile. Slowly, he started to smile back, he started coming over more and more. At the end of the second day, he gave me a hug. I had lots of hugs in Slatina, but that was the most amazing, rewarding moment of my trip.
Cut to day three, and he is following me around, the biggest grin on his face. The carers start to notice, and they’re shocked: they’ve never seen him interacting like this. On day four, he met us off the bus. The man that I went over to meet because he didn’t usually interact with the other residents, joined us all for a game of pass the parcel.
This particular resident isn’t the only person that doesn’t approach the group of volunteers, so if you see someone in Cezieni that is keeping to themselves, don’t be afraid to go over. And if you see the resident this post is about, or even someone in a similar position to him, do what I did and give him a chance. You don’t know how much of a difference your quick smile and “buna” could make.
* The name in this blog has been changed in order to protect the identity of the adult we support.
We recently had a chat with Joanna, one of our volunteers who has just returned from her first trip to Olt this summer. She has graduated from The University of Manchester this July with a Psychology degree, and is soon off to Oxford to complete her masters. Whilst at university, Joanna volunteered as a project leader with a ‘Student Action Volunteering’ project, where she would organise and supervise a weekly activity club for adults with disabilities. She had also volunteered with The Stroke Association and in a local residential care home; all experiences she said helped her to feel prepared for her trip. Here’s what she shared with us…
Q: Why did you apply to volunteer with The LIFE Foundation?
A: I had heard really positive things from a friend who had volunteered with them previously, it sounded like an incredible programme that was doing fantastic work. Whilst I had done lots of volunteering in the UK, I had never been overseas to do so; many charities seem to be run mostly to give volunteers an ‘experience’ with little to no actual impact. The LIFE foundation seemed different and that giving my time would have real benefit, and it seemed really sustainable, which appealed to me.
Q: Was it what you expected when you arrived?
A: At our training day it was stressed how small the flat is, so I was actually pleasantly surprised! It is definitely small, but in the communal room there is a sizable dining table (no eating on laps unless you want to!) and some comfy chairs which overlook a view which gives one of the most picturesque sunsets I’ve ever seen. The kitchen and toilet are basic but completely serviceable, and it was all impeccably clean.
Q: What is a typical day for a LIFE volunteer?
A: It depends, although it always involves leaving at 8.30am!
On three days a week we worked solely with the children in small groups. As there were eight of us on our trip, this meant three groups, each accompanied by a translator. In the morning we’d work with one or two houses, before returning home for lunch, and heading back out to do a further house in the afternoon. A typical day could include helping with physiotherapy, brushing teeth and hair, doing some gentle massage, intensive interaction, sensory play, and general active play! In some houses you may be able to go outside, others you’ll be inside; but no two visits to the same house are the same!
On two days a week we went to the adult institution. When you arrive, the excitement from the adults is evident and you may well be adopted by one or two who particularly want to spend time with you. This could be colouring, painting nails, throwing a Frisbee or even dancing (I was taught some traditional Romanian dancing by one of the adults on my first trip to the institution!) It was also possible to spend time in the sensory room giving massage and using sensory items with some of the adults. At lunch, we went and fed those who needed some assistance, and it was also possible to go and spend time with the less able adults if you wanted to.
Q: How would you describe your experience with the children and adults?
A: I had an incredible time with both the children and the adults. The kindness and love many of the children and adults showed will stay with me forever; there were so many hugs, cuddles and fond memories!
Q: What about Slatina, where you stayed – did you do much in your spare time?
A: Slatina was bigger than I expected; there are quite a few restaurants and a beautiful park right by the flat. I had been worried about how I was going to eat (I’m lactose intolerant and vegetarian!) but I found that most places had something I could eat. The local supermarket also had a huge variety of food, so cooking in the flat was really easy and was a great way to save money. Most evenings we went and played cards and had ice cream at the local bars/cafes, and there’s also an artificial beach and a hotel with a pool; there’s plenty to do! Some of the group also went to Bucharest at the weekend and had a fantastic time!
Q: Do you have a favourite memory from your trip?
A: Although I loved all of it, my favourite memory is of working with a young boy with autism in one of the houses. He usually wanted to watch TV most of the time and didn’t have any interest in toys or games, becoming distressed if the TV was turned off. During my first visit I found a simple stacking game he showed slight interest in, and by the end of the two weeks he was completing the entire set, only watching TV for a minute or two in between goes. It was a huge moment, and there was a massive grin on both of our faces!
Tell us a bit about yourself…
Hello! My name is Claire and I’m a trustee at The LIFE Foundation. I am a junior doctor currently working in Accident and Emergency in Croydon, but am set to start my GP training in August 2017 in Kent. Prior to medicine, I studied to be a vet for 4 years, and it was during that time I began volunteering with LIFE. After consideration and spending more time in Romania, I decided then that I wanted to become a doctor.
Why did you join The LIFE Foundation?
I joined LIFE after watching a programme on TV called ‘Bulgaria’s Abandoned Children’, which really shed light on the issues people living in Eastern Europe were facing following a Communist regime that left masses of parents unable to care sufficiently for their children and a care system that struggled to cope with the most vulnerable in their societies. After hearing about the volunteering opportunity in Romania, I decided to apply, and before I knew it I had completed my training and was embarking on my first trip to Romania. I enjoyed it so much I didn’t want to stop going back! I wanted to do as much as I could to help, and here I am now all these years later having seen many people grow and develop – the difference is astounding.
What does your role involve?
My role involves developing the project in Romania, especially with regards to specialist volunteers and the progression and skills development of the staff we work alongside in Olt. I offer advice about the day-to-day running of things and help to find any medical support that is needed for the babies, children or adults, whether that be medication, medical equipment or further, more specialised advice. I also help with recruitment, interviews and training of volunteers, as well as our integral fundraisers; particularly when the people we are supporting in Romania need life-changing medical interventions.
What is the best part of your role?
The best part of my role is getting regular updates about the people we are supporting and their development. When one of them even makes the tiniest bit of progress, it makes my heart swell with pride as I know we’re playing a part in their achievements and providing an overall better quality of life.
Any memorable moments?
A stand out memorable moment for me was when we got a text to say that one of our little girls had got through her complicated heart surgery and was eating yogurt. Thanks to our volunteers’ persistence and fundraising she was able to get that life-saving surgery – she was later adopted and is now at school doing fantastically well. It is success stories like this that remind us all of the reasons why our donations and fundraising efforts are so vital.
What would you say to somebody who is considering volunteering with LIFE?
It is such an amazing, life-changing experience! Whilst many volunteers continue to come back year on year, seeing the continued progress for themselves, some volunteers will not return, but will treasure their memories, continuing to donate and help from a distance. No matter who you are and what you choose to do, it is important to acknowledge the difference you will have made – it may feel like a drop in the ocean at the time, but it’s all part of our strategy and overarching plan for Romania and the work we assist with in Olt. You can make a difference.
Tell us a bit about yourself…
Hello, I’m Lucy and I’m a trustee for The LIFE Foundation. I’m currently a University administrator and am based in the North West. I first volunteered in 2008 with LIFE and have been involved ever since – through sixth form, University and now work. As well as being a trustee, in my spare time I like cycling, running, reading and exploring the hills around Manchester.
Why did you join The LIFE Foundation?
I applied to volunteer at 16 when I was about to start sixth form and beginning to think about my next steps. I heard about the Oltenia project while visiting a University campus event in Nottingham and it sounded perfect. I ended up travelling to Oltenia for a 10 day trip that summer, and also volunteered with a charity in Hyderabad, India, that we used to partner with. The people I worked with on both projects completely captured my heart and I learnt so much from the projects, the countries, and the people I worked with – both UK volunteers in my team and the local volunteers, carers and co-ordinators. I returned to both projects in 2010 and when I moved to Manchester that same year I became a part of the committee.
What does your role involve?
I work with the management team to oversee charity activity and support the short and long term goals of our projects. My main role is leading the recruitment of volunteers each year and helping to support our committee members. I’m also heavily involved in selection and training of volunteers and look after our website, helping with online communications too.
What is the best part of your role?
I love speaking to volunteers, from the first enquiry, in interviews, at training, and after trips. We have such brilliant individuals join our team each year and it fills me with gratitude and amazement when I hear how interested and passionate they are, about their work experience and career goals. I love sharing my experience of the projects with them and then hearing their stories of who they worked with, what went well, what challenges may have arisen and how the teams get on in Slatina. I also am very privileged to work with such a great team with the committee and our staff as well – words can’t describe how lovely, hard-working and incredibly brilliant they are!
Any memorable moments?
I have far too many from the 9 years to list – I’ll just pick a couple!
In 2011, I met fellow Trustee, Claire, for the first time when she picked me up to collect a van which we were to drive to Romania, full of donations. Spending 9 days in a van together is certainly a great way to get to know each other very well!
In 2017, I embarked on my second winter visit – it snowed and was -14 degrees! I enjoyed a sweet moment with a resident from Cezieni on this trip who held my hand and hugged me… until she then threw a fist full of snow at me and run away laughing, with members of my team laughing too! On the same trip, it was great spending a fantastic evening at Mr and Mrs Matei’s home where they kindly welcomed us for a home cooked meal.
What would you say to someone considering volunteering with The LIFE Foundation?
Volunteering on these sort of projects is challenging but also hugely rewarding and every volunteer learns and grows from the experience. Take a look at our website, blog posts written by volunteers, and speak to us to find out more!
This report was written by a returning volunteer who’s 2nd trip was in summer 2014. Names of the children, adults or staff have been removed for data protection. If you have any questions about the Olt roject please email firstname.lastname@example.org
“This was my second trip to Romania, and I still love it. I love the fact the trip is so focused around the Charity, and you really feel like you’re helping and making a difference. Combine that with the fact that Slatina, although fairly small, is full of things to do and brilliant people, and you get a brilliant trip!
“I particularly enjoyed my time in the teenage flat, it was so nice to see how much happier [one child] had become, although our games were certainly exhausting. I was, however, somewhat upset to see how withdrawn [one child] had become due to the fact the carers have placed them in the seat in the corner and regularly check to see that they are behaving. It means interaction is limited, and I believe it could have a negative effect on new volunteers feeling able to initiate interaction with them. Despite this, when I did get to interact with [this child], they seemed very happy and it was lovely to see them change from being fairly subdued to being happy and giggling! I also really enjoyed my time at Cezieni this year, I was lucky enough to be there on the trip where we got to have BBQ and it was lovely to be allowed the opportunity to do something different with them. I also really enjoyed my interactions with the less able adults, I think that last year I wasn’t nearly as confident with them but this time I found it extremely rewarding. There’s some real characters there and it’s always fun to get the adults laughing and enjoying themselves!
“When not working, we went shopping in Slatina (I can seriously recommend the charity shops, they’re ridiculously cheap!!), went to lots of pubs and restaurants for meals our and visited both the beach and the pool. We were also lucky enough to be in Slatina for the first day of the beer festival, which turned out to be a lovely end to the trip on the final Friday night. We all got the opportunity to buy lots of traditional Romanian gifts, and were lucky enough to see Oana Radu live (which was a personal highlight for me, I love her!!).
“Overall I really enjoyed the trip. I didn’t enjoy the first week as much as the second, but that’s only because I preferred the flats I did the second week, specifically teenage flat. However, I was lucky enough to be involved in many of the special activities during my stay, and specifically enjoyed the trip to get icecream/to the park and [one child’s] birthday, all because I’m so fond of them and I loved getting the opportunity to take them out of the flat! I really can’t wait to go back next year, I’d spend the whole year in Romania if it were possible, but even getting to spend two weeks with such amazing children is an utter privilege which I hope to carry on into the future for many many years to come, so you’re not getting rid of me any time soon!!”
This trip report was written by a volunteer who went to the Olt project in 2015. All names have been removed for data protection.
“[The in-country co-ordinators] were both lovely and they do a marvellous job with the carers, the kids and the adults at Cezieni too. They made it easy to settle in to the trip and it was reassuring to know that there was someone Romanian with us if we needed to speak to the carers.
“Furthermore, I felt very happy in my team, everyone was equally involved in working with the kids and the adults. In the flats I was paired with someone with a lot of experience which was reassuring, especially in [the] flat which I found the most difficult. In the second week I worked with a returning volunteer which was equally as good as they had been [to the project] before and was very confident and engaging with the children.
“On the two Sundays we went to the pool and then the beach pool which was welcome as it was very hot! We also went out for meals a few times and went for drinks and to the cinema. I really enjoyed the social side to the trip as well, it exceeded my expectations as to how friendly everyone was and how much there was to do in Slatina. On the nights that we stayed in, we had a cooking rota and watched a couple of films on a laptop. We were also very lucky to have a delicious Romanian meal cooked for us by a volunteer.
“To be honest I’m not sure that I have highlights of the trip as such because the whole two weeks were amazing. If I had to pick one I would say the BBQ at Cezieni because it was so rewarding to take some of the less able out for a few hours and I was surprised at how good they were at waiting for food, sharing toys and joining in with the games. They looked like they were having a great time which was really satisfying for us as volunteers.
“Overall, I am really glad that I decided to volunteer for The LIFE Foundation on the Oltenia Project. The trip opened my eyes to the different healthcare opportunities in different countries and it has made me even more grateful for the health and social care system we have in the UK. Most of all, this trip has provided me with great experience of working with children with developmental disabilities and has confirmed for me that I want to work in a caring profession to help improve the lives of people with disabilities and mental health problems.”
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This is part of a trip report we received from a volunteer who had been to Oltenia. All names have been removed/changed for data protection reasons. Stories from previous volunteers are crucial in helping to prepare potential applicants and new volunteers for what to expect. There are challenging and difficult aspoects to the trip which must be considered, but so many rewarding and positive parts that most volunteers feel outweigh the hard bits!
“I thoroughly enjoyed the trip to Olt, whilst it was very tough to see first-hand the children and adults and how they live compared to how they would live if they got all necessary care possible, it was good to know that [The LIFE Foundation] are helping to improve their quality of life, and hopefully through time it will continue to improve. I enjoyed working with all the children, it was particularly nice when by the end of the two weeks [one child] started to link arms with me and loved for me to sit next to them and engage in activities such as blowing bubbles. We also, with permission, took [one child] to the local supermarket to buy some food which was nice for them to be out of the flat and great to see them enjoy being a bit more independent.
“At Cezieni it was really enjoyable to see [one resident] so enthusiastic for learning English. Also, one of the women was very clingy to me and for the first couple of trips she would yell or hit the other adults if they tried to interact with me. However, with persistence it was nice when she allowed me to interact with the other adults more and then with me after without any abuse towards the other adults.
“I felt comfortable within the team, we all helped each other through the experience, and I didn’t feel over or under confident/experienced when working with the children and adults in comparison to the team as a whole. In our spare time, we went to the cinema and watched an English film, we also went to the artificial beach which was really relaxing! We also went to a few bars/pubs and often went to Raefaello’s! The highlights of the trip for me was mainly going to the park with [one] flat as it was amazing to see them all out of the flat and enjoying the park with other Romanian children. Also, generally living and bonding with the whole team was great, and we’ve kept in contact since coming home.
“I didn’t enjoy certain aspects of Cezieni, such as seeing how poor in particular the less abled live was heart-breaking. Furthermore, the bullying which can often be seen between certain adults there was very upsetting. I struggled with having to pack away all the toys at the end of each visit to the flat / Cezieni as you could see the look of sadness on their faces. I don’t think much could have been improved on the trip, I found it really tough, but very enjoyable at trying to help the situation.
“To summarise the trip to Olt was very rewarding and whilst it was emotional, I met some great people and I’m so happy to have helped, no matter how small, to help improve the lives of the children and the adults in Cezeini. It didn’t always feel like we were helping lots, but I’m sure with all the volunteers helping over the summer as well as the coordinators there all the time, the Foundation really will be helping them, which is great to know.”
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This was written by a volunteer who went on an Oltenia trip in summer 2015:
We took some of the kids from the Family Type Homes and some of the Roma children to the zoo outside of Slatina. This was a great trip out and for a lot of the kids this was their first time going to a zoo. The boy I was sat with was even fascinated with the sights out of the coach window!
While at the zoo they were all fascinated with the animals and were running around making the animal noises, having a fun time. We also spent time in the play park there, and they all went wild running around and laughing. I was playing a game with the Roma kids which I am assuming is a version of tag but I wasn’t quite sure, whatever it was it involved a lot of running, screaming and excitement! There was also a big double sided swinging bench which we got a group of us on had a really good laugh going high so all in all everyone had a brilliant time!